We've all done it... we have made New Year's Resolutions that just don't last. So do we throw in the towel? Say no to New Year's Goals?
We don't have to throw out the entire idea but we do need to re-frame it and focus on how growth and change actually happen. Similar to why diets fail, New Year's Resolutions are often lofty, unrealistic, and shame-based. But taking the time in the New Year to reflect, plan, dream, and set goals can be fulfilling if we do it with honesty, alignment, and self compassion. That is where we can turn our focus onto the rhythms we see for ourselves.
One of the keys to leading a healthy, fulfilling life is getting into rhythms that are aligned with who we are. These rhythms can be physical, emotional, or even spiritual, but they all serve to bring structure and purpose to our days. However, it's important to remember that these rhythms should allow for flexibility and adaptability. Life is constantly changing and we need to be able to roll with the punches. Here are a few tips for getting into good rhythms while still leaving room for flexibility:
Make a schedule: Having a rough schedule for your day can help you prioritize your time and ensure that you're getting everything done that you need to and help us be intentional about how we want to spend our time. However, be sure to leave some wiggle room in your schedule for unexpected events or tasks that come up. Have compassion for yourself on days where your schedule changes because your needs change.
Find a balance: It's important to find a balance between structure and flexibility. Too much structure can be stifling and leave you feeling stressed and overwhelmed, while too much flexibility can lead to a lack of direction and purpose. Find the right balance for you and your needs. Do this by asking what you really need and then honor yourself by following through. Taking a nap may be what you need! Taking a nap may also be a way to procrastinate doing something that you're anxious about. The nap isn't the issue - but the intention is. So start to find balance by checking in on your intentions.
Be open to change: It's inevitable that your rhythms will be disrupted at times. Embrace change and be open to trying new things. This can help you stay adaptable and flexible, and prevent you from getting stuck in a rut. Example: This month you may get in a rhythm of walking your dog after work, but next month it might snow too much so you can find other ways to connect to yourself and your pup!
Practice self-care: Taking care of yourself is crucial for maintaining good rhythms. Make time for activities that nourish your body and mind, such as movement, meditation, or hobbies. Just like you schedule in meetings, be sure you schedule in time for YOU!
Seek support: If you're struggling to get into good rhythms or feel like you're constantly being thrown off balance, consider seeking support from a therapist . They can help you identify any underlying issues and work with you to develop strategies for finding balance, alignment, and good rhythms in your life.
Overall, getting into good rhythms is an important step towards leading a healthy, fulfilling life. But don't be afraid to shake things up and try new things. Remember to find a balance between structure and flexibility, and be open to change. And most importantly, don't forget to practice self-care and seek support when needed.